Day Four

    Day Four... Oh Day Four...  Day four did not go so well for us. I was thinking the day before how everyone that I have spoken to lately is feeling pretty miserable and everyone is desperate for the weather to get nicer and bring to us the oppotunity for fresh air and sunshine. I asked myself who has been down lately and could use a little appreciation and a moment of sunshine in their day. I thought of my sister. I decided that it would be nice to surprise her. The plan was to show up at her house and take her to lunch, wherever she wished to go. I asked our Mom to come along since she had the day off. She mentioned that maybe a surprise would not be such a good idea for my sister. I said that I was pretty confident that she would be home. Based on recent conversations with her and the knowledge of her lack of transportation boosted that confidence. I figured if she wasn't home she would only have walked somewhere and we could have picked her up. She also always has her phone with her. I just really liked the idea of a surprise. We stopped along the way to pick up a nice plant for her (since she would like that better than flowers). We decided to call about 10 minutes before we would be arriving at her house just to give her a chance to get dressed incase she was not already.
     She did not answer her phone. We arrived at her house and called again. She did not answer again. Knocked several times on the door, no answer. We waited a little bit, called again, no answer. I decided to take the kids to the park nearby so they could get out of the car while we waited. We were probably about 10 minutes away. She called back shortly after the kids started running around. I told her that we were there and that we wanted to take her to lunch. She told me that she just got home and her daughter (an adult) was hungry right now and wanted to eat now. I was like... ok... well can she wait a little while so we can come and get you? Response: not really, she's hungry..... and when [my somma time man] calls we need to leave to go downtown.. .. sorry... you should know not to surprise me.   WTF!
     Talk about deflation... well the surprise was on me wasn't it? I start my day happy about the chance to cheer somebody up and the day turns into hassle and disappointment. Why should I be unhappy about somebody not wanting my gift? I tell myself I shouldn't be but that didn't help very much. I don't see my sister often, she lives about an hour away from me. Going there just to take her to lunch was kind of a big deal and I know that we saw her in January but I am not sure that we've seen her since. I would think that she would have been a little more happy that we drove all the way there to give her a gift. You don't mind the inconvenience if you have the chance to do something nice... but the lack of something nice left just the hassle. Grrrr!
     So I let the kids choose where they wanted to eat, we went there and they enjoyed their lunch and we now have a nice plant for ourselves :) In the future I will certainly think long and hard before trying to make any of my gifts a surprise.... I think I've had enough of those to last 29 days worth... well 25 now.
     My Mimi was planning on reading me three stories last night as her gift. Since we were gone all day and did not arrive home until bedtime... she did not get to do that either. It was a lose/lose day for us in respect to our giving. The optimist in my (the one that lives waaaay down in my little baby toe so far away, visiting very infrequently, is nowhere to be found today.... maybe she'll show up later) should be reminding me of the other gifts we each gave yesterday but eh.... not right now. No plans yet for today's gift.